DEAR MISS MANNERS: It used to be the bride who proclaimed that the wedding was Her Day. As soon as that attitude resulted in many of them being called “Bridezilla,” everyone else started popping up to proclaim it Her Day (or The Couple’s Day).

DEAR MISS MANNERS: It used to be the bride who proclaimed that the wedding was Her Day. As soon as that attitude resulted in many of them being called “Bridezilla,” everyone else started popping up to proclaim it Her Day (or The Couple’s Day).

In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to a wedding guest questioning etiquette within the wedding industry.

When it comes to brides and wedding planning, “It’s not about you” is just another way of saying “You don’t matter.” It turns people into props in a reality show.

Does the mother of the bride want to exclude her ex -- who treated her abominably in the divorce, and who isn’t related to nor close with the bride -- from the wedding? Too bad. “It’s not about you,” she’s told.

It’s not about you.” Does a guest wonder if a gift was ever received because they have heard nothing from the happy couple, who married months ago? “It’s not about you.” In this Gentle Reader’s opinion,